Inspirations.

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I just I can’t catch any inspiration while sitting on my comfort chair and typing on my brand new -also comfort- table, ideas, inspirations and revelation always come over when I’m on a go, when I bike, when I sit for long after I eat my meal alone, when I stare to the people walking, talking here and there, I think a notebook and a pen, if when they’re available catching idea better than merely sitting on a comfort place, but they’re not always available for most of the time.

And full stop here.

Reasons

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Once upon a time I wanted to be a writer, then I started to co-create a self published magazine with my friends when I was in senior high school, it worked for a while, I wrote some short-stories and some poems, but some emotional turbulence happened to me and eventually I discontinued writing and the magazine stopped too.

A simple reason that triggered me to be a writer was: I have a sore throat caused by so many refrained words, there are some words that I meant to say but when I was a child I was discouraged to express to say those words, I could not say what I meant to say but I used to say what I should say, but those refrained words remain there, creates some stress and creates this sore throat too, so I decided to be a writer, at least for my own life story, and from my point of view.

On Discipline

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What I have learnt:

#1.Discipline is the medicine to summon all my energy back! Discipline is the medicine, the cure that revitalises our body, mind and spirit however it is not easy even just to say: just do it. Because, I or you (may be) used to learn that discipline is an external factor.

(Disiplin adalah obat untuk membangkitkan energi. Disiplin adalah obat, pengobatan yang mengembalikan semangat tubuh, pikiran dan jiwa, namun, tak pernah mudah, bahkan hanya untuk sekedar mengatakan: lakukan saja!. Sebab, saya atau kita selalu belajar kalau disiplin itu datangnya dari luar.)

#2. Why is it an external factor?, it is simply because since our childhood we have been understanding and learning a poisonous understanding that says: I need others to discipline me, by punishment, by fear, by sanctions, by rewards (money), by heaven or hell, and this make our inner ability to discipline our self weak.

(Dari luar?, penjelasannya sederhana, sejak masa kecil kita mempelajari pemahaman yang sangat beracun tentang disiplin yang menyiratkan: saya butuh orang lain untuk mendisiplinkan saya, dengan hukuman, ketakutan, sanksi, hadiah (uang), dengan surga dan neraka, dan hal ini membuat kemampuan nurani kita untuk menginternalisir disiplin lemah)

#3. As for me, one night, it was very difficult just to say:my dear body please do wake up at 4.30! Yes I lost control to me! If I don’t commit to my own promise to my self how I can commit my promise to others?

(Buat saya, suatu malam, sangat susah sekali untuk sekedar bilang: hei badanku sayang ayo bangun pada jam 4.30 pagi! Ya saya telah kehilangan kontrol pada diri saya sendiri, jika saya tak bisa memenuhi janji saya pada diri saya sendiri, bagaimana saya bisa memenuhi janji saya pada orang lain?

#written with love; always commit to yourself! always!

(ditulis dengan cinta; selalu berkomitmen pada dirimu sendiri!)

 

 

People I met

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A woman, in a convenient store, with an oriental look, wearing a black blazer, with a white blackberry in her hand, sat next to me, she uttered some words, but I couldn’t hear the words properly, but I guessed she was asking whether the empty seat next to me was occupied or not, in a glance, she already settled herself, sitting next to me, turning herself in an autistic mode with her cell phone. However, for a while her look became a magnet to my masculine instinct, driving my eyes to momentarily looking at her, my mind was guessing about her background, her jobs, her office, her family, her boyfriend and a common question popped up in my mind, how do they look like? For a while these thoughts driving me away from the book that I read: Further Along; The Road Less Traveled, by Scott M.Peck, and for a while too she already disappeared.

She disappeared. And I resumed my mind to the book I read, it was on a chapter “GROWING UP PAINFULLY, it says,

This is an extremely important truth because a great deal of human psychopathology, including the abuse of drugs, arises out of the attempt to get back to Eden. At cocktail parties we tend to need at least that one drink to help diminish our self-consciousness, to diminish our shyness…

–It’s my weakness, many times I feel insecure when some of my friends hide their plan to go to a cocktail party or anything like that, and I’m really grateful if I’m invited to such a party even though I don’t frequently drink, and I’ll be happy to help them to find their way back home in the end of the party, and after the party, I’ll feel alive, and I feel truly as a friend–, and a few seconds after I read those phrases, a woman in a purple dress sat next to me, without any words, she vibrated rush, or busy, or anxious, or insecure mood to me, and she put a beverage on the table, the beverage looks bright browny, she talked on her phone, I looked to her bottle, and after a while, –it looked awkward at the moment– she covered her bottle with a white paper bag, after a while, I left for a meeting, that I was expecting a semi-formal meeting.

A man, after more than one hour waiting for a meeting, I wanted to see and talk with this man, I saw the man, a man with the sharp eyes, in a black outfit, in a cigarrete-smoky room, he was talking with a woman, in a black blazer, with a white blackberry, then I came to them, and it seemed that I already terminated their in depth conversation, and they stopped the conversation, I culturally said sorry that I terminated their in depth sharing, and they culturally also said that it was okay, that there’s nothing personal within the conversation, however I sensed something personal transmitted in the air, and the man started formally talking to me, he introduced the woman to me, and the woman mentioned her name in a very low voice, but I got her name, and  it’s already an awkward meeting with the presence of the woman, not a woman I think, she looks like a girl in a woman’s dress, and the meeting turned to be an awkward meeting, and it ended up with an appointment to a virtual meeting on the net, emails and its friends, then I said a bye, and they resumed their depth conversation. And my expectation flew to a nowhere place.

 

 

Initiatives of Change (Indonesia)

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Now it’s been 10 years I involve in this Initiatives of Change movement, however I still feel that now my transformation is not yet satisfied, and now I serve as the main coordinator or a president for the Initiatives of Change Indonesia and some months to go, what’s written below is just a little piece of the story, you may enjoy it but you may not too, so here it is anyway…

 After 7 years staying in the IofC old House, and taking about 1.5 month finding the new House, and through prayers and support within our network we found the new centre for IofC Indonesia. Renting this House is part of our short term goal before we have our permanent IofC centre.

Since 2003 IofC House has been playing an important role in running our IofC daily activities, it becomes our place to learn and share. Every weekend in this centre we have our weekly gathering, for Quiet Time and sharing and sometime we invite friends to share their experience in life changing and occasionally we organize activities that help us to be more efficient change makers, such as leadership training, public speaking, family workshop, inner growth programme, women creator of peace and other activities. And for those who stay in the centre it is a very unique experience, because during staying in the house, we learn to live in a community, learn how to sincerely interact with each other, resolve conflict and appreciate our each personal unique.

Living with IofC values is not always easy to live with but it is not difficult too, living with IofC values requires many steps to continuously evolving and transforming our self to be a better person, in other words living with IofC means living with life itself therefore we hope that this house becomes the centre for life and leadership training.

 Currently there are 4 people staying in the house, these people for some years has been involving with IofC movement and activities, they are:

 

·      Iskandar (male)

IofC Indonesia full time worker, member of IofC Indonesia Executive Council, he is responsible for IofC Indonesia administration affairs, a private English Teacher, and a freelance bus chaperone at British International School in Jakarta

·      Yudi Septiawan (male)

IofC Indonesia volunteer, member of IofC Indonesia Executive Council, he is responsible for IofC Indonesia financial affairs, and also a postgraduate student at public university studying International Relation

·      Abdullah Alwazin (male)

IofC Indonesia full time worker, IofC Indonesia President (General Coordinator) member of IofC Indonesia Executive Council, translator, private English Teacher, and a postgraduate student at a private university, studying English

·      Akhmad Hairul Umam (male)

IofC Indonesia volunteer, member of IofC Indonesia Supervisory Council, former IofC Indonesia President (General Coordinator), an academic staff at a private university and lecturer

The House can accommodate up to 20 people for one event, it features 4 rooms, 2 small meeting rooms, two kitchen and two gardens. And the cost of renting the new house is: IDR.18.000.000* for one year renting (it is efficient from September 1st 2013 to August 31st)

How we finance it? Those who stay in the IofC Indonesia house share the payment of the House, each person share: IDR 4.500.000, and the operational of the House will be covered by IofC Indonesia management (through donations from our members and supporters, and so far it has been raised IDR 1.200.000**).

And again we would like to convey our sincere gratitude and thanks to all of you who has been continuously praying and supporting for our movement and activities, and also however we still keep our fingers crossed, and we ask for your prayers and support that soon we can have our permanent IofC Indonesia house to make our work and movement can be more efficient. May God, Allah, the Divine always bless our work and efforts. Amen

Official address:

Rumah Initiatives of Change Indonesia

Jl.Legoso Raya Blok C5 No.9/10

Perum Griya Satwika (Komp.Telkom)

Pisangan Ciputat Tangerang Selatan 15419

Banten Indonesia

*approximately USD 1800 (with USD rate 1 USD =10.000 IDR)

**until this article is written, the amount of fund that we raised reached IDR 1.200.000

On Religion

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One thing that really discouraged me to be a religious person, I have a problem when a religion talks about ritual this and that, and those rituals become the strict line between heaven and hell, or some testimony of faith can be a simply differentiation between heaven and hell, I have a lot of friends and there are so many good people they do have faiths but their religion is not my religion, my mind and heart starts to question and question where they belong? And at this point I have no satisfying answer for such question.